Previously published in Renew
Is it time to fire the curmudgeon in your head?
What if, throughout the majority of your day, people said negative things to you? You encounter someone on the street and rather than say hello, he says, “What an ugly day.” Or you check your appearance and someone says, “You look fat.”
No doubt you’d have a hard time keeping your spirits up. But that’s exactly what’s happening inside your brain most of the time.
Some experts estimate that 96 percent of your thoughts are dark chatter. And sadly, you’re so used to the negative monologue, you probably don’t even notice. Your negative thoughts not only affect your mood and sense of self-worth, but they can also produce negative outcomes in the form of stress, guilt, missed opportunities and even physical illness.
Quiet the jerk in your gray matter and discover how peaceful, and positive, life can be.
Although you might not be able to change overnight, you can start to squash that negative noise and regain control of your thoughts by following these simple steps, says metaphysics teacher and psychic channeler, Debra Yeager.
She believes negative thinking has a direct impact on physical well-being. The good news, she says, is that you can change—and feel noticeably different— in about five weeks by following three simple steps.
First, listen to yourself. Yeager suggests spending one week consciously bearing witness to your thoughts. Whenever you think something negative, either about yourself or someone else, simply say to yourself: Cancel that. Don’t punish yourself for having the thought. Just move on. Do this consistently, and write down what you observe. This technique is an easy tool to help you recognize just how often you think dark thoughts and will serve as a catalyst for change.
Second, add in positive thoughts. After you have and cancel a negative thought, Yeager says, say something positive. It can be anything related to the initial negative thought or not.
Third, create a mantra. Yeager suggests choosing four positive words that represent what you want. For example: I am peaceful. I am poised. I am prosperous. I am positive.
She adds that the use of “I am” is very powerful and suggests writing out your mantra and taping it to your mirror or desk and reading it at least 10 times a day. You don’t have to believe you can change or that this will work in order to get started.
Yeager says even skeptics see a positive impact.
Negative thinking is a powerful, learned behavior, but luckily there are ways to fight back and combat its impact on your mind and health. Taking these active steps, you can become a positive force in your own life and in the lives of those around you.